I always enjoy going against the grain, after all, isn’t that the way to stand out? This post will certainly do just that. It’s been accepted as good advice (even back to the ancient Chinese) to view life as a journey and not a destination, the underlying wisdom being that if you work and slave for some far off goal you will miss actually living along the way, possibly feeling empty, unfulfilled and directionless when you finally do arrive, blah, blah, blah. I personally think that this viewpoint is waaaay off the mark.
First, a few points to consider:
1) Imagine setting out on a boat or plane without a destination. Not too easy is it? If you have some vague location you want to “journey to” you might set sail, and then – do what? Well, if its a journey you’d probably just drift, right?
2) How can you hit a target you don’t even have? “Setting out on a journey” means you will basically just depart and see what happens to you, and deal with it as best you can. On the other hand, if you are focussed on the destination, you will prepare for it: acquiring all the tools, materials and information necessary, coordinating the parameters of departures, creating a plan and then executing it. Sounds like the recipe for success, doesn’t it?
3) If you look at the successful people in life, they are usually those who know exactly where they are going and what they have to do to get there. They are by and large confident, happy and well adjusted. It is the drifters who are trouble-ridden.
Of course you should take the time to relish your accomplishments along the way. But these are actually “little destinations” themselves, aren’t they? So you are in fact “smelling the roses” as you go along, but the ones you enjoy are BIG, bulbous, fragrant ones, not the tiny, wilting stubs that the drifters are relegated to.
To summarize, viewing life as a destination basically just means that you are directing your life, as opposed to being directed by it. You have a big goal you desire, you should never lose sight of it. You should definately note your progress toward it along the way, and you will see the satisfaction grow as you near your destination. When you do get there, throw a big celebration, then go and select another one!
Cheers, Big War